The Share of Oneself- Inspect Yourself O Practicing Muslim!

By Dr Eyad Qunaibi

 

There is something noticeable in alot of us who are assumed to be practicing Muslims; when we abandon what we were used to from the forbidden things like songs, non-conservative relationships between guys and girls etc., then do the external acts of practicing e.g. beard, Hijab etc. without first passing through the stations of true purification, then the “share of our souls” will remain with us!

This share of our souls which used to drive you in the past to the apparent known sins will now search for a new outlet in your personality to make your practicing deficient. Sometimes even making it empty practicing of Islam. The share of your soul will manifest itself in a different way.

In the past you would satisfy the share of your soul by listening to music and looking at forbidden things. Today, after “practicing”, you satisfy the share of your soul by showing off and seeking fame through the Religion which you are externally practicing or by means of carelessly backbiting people or belittling them on the basis that you are the caretaker and defender of the Islam, or carelessness in people’s rights on the basis that you are more worthy of what you took from their money since you are serving Islam whereas they waste their money on things with no benefit.

She used to satisfy the share of her soul by openly displaying herself. Today after she covered her head she satisfies the share of her soul by tightening clothes, adorning herself and being less conservative in her relationship with the men around her.

The problem is that when all this happens we drug our conscious whenever it tries to wake up and we say to it
“I am okay, and the evidence for that is that I left listening to music and watching wrong things for the sake of Allah. I grew my beard and endured the negative perception of society towards me and I sacrificed for the sake of Allah.” That is correct, he did that for the sake of Allah but he didn’t get rid of the share of his soul, so it looked for a different outlet to make up for what he sacrificed !

Ponder the condition of the Khawarij; the ones who the Prophet (Peace and blessings of Allah be upon him) said ” You will look down upon your prayers, fasting and actions, in comparison to theirs.” Their worship in what is apparent is more than the companions but their downfall was that they didn’t get rid of the share of evil in their souls.
Ibn Kathir said:
(The first innovation that occurred in Islam was the trial of the khawarij and their beginning was because of something worldly. It was when the Messenger of Allah (Peace and blessings of Allah be upon him) was distributing the war booty of Hunain. Their corrupt brains made them deluded into thinking that he (Peace and blessings of Allah be upon him) wasn’t being just in his distribution. They shocked him with their saying where one of the khawarij called Thu Alkhuaisira said “Be just, verily you have not done justice”).

This is their calamity! They didn’t purify their souls from its share even though they had many acts of worship. Their souls manifested the evil in it by feeling superior to the people and making people blood and money lawful. Otherwise, Allah is more merciful than misguiding a people who sought for the truth and were sincerely devoted to it.

My brother, my sister. Search yourself! Has it become devoid of its share? Know that uprightness is not real until you have gotten rid of this share and you are certain of the mercy of Allah that He will replace it with sweetness and faith like the one written in the hearts of the companions of Mohamed (Peace and blessings of Allah be upon him)

(Those – He has decreed within their hearts faith and supported them with spirit from Him) (Surat Al-Mujadilah, Verse 22 in translation)

The Backbiting of the Heart

This is a chapter from Al-Imaam An-Nawawi’s book Al-Athkaar, on how the heart is just as accountable for evil thoughts about someone as the tongue is for evil speech. We ask Allaah for safety and deliverance. 

 
The Backbiting of the Heart

Know that having evil thoughts about someone is forbidden just as evil speech [is]. So just as it is forbidden for you to speak to others about the faults of someone, it is also forbidden for you to speak to yourself about that and to hold negative thoughts of him. Allah says:
 
“O you who believe, avoid much (types) of suspicion. Verily some (forms) of suspicion is a sin.” [al-Hujuraat : 12]
And Abu Hurairah, radi Allahu ‘anhu, reported that Allah’s Messenger, sallallahu alayhi wa sallam, said: “Beware of suspicion, for indeed suspicion is the most untruthful form of speech.”
 
And the ahadeeth with the meaning of what I have mentioned are many. And the meaning of this [the backbiting of the heart] is the heart concluding and judging someone with negative thoughts. But as for passing thoughts and one’s talking to himself, if these thoughts do not remain established and continuous, then he is excused, according to the consensus of the scholars, because he has no choice in this happening, and he has no means of disassociation from them. This is the understanding of what has been estabilished in the authentic texts, as the Prophet said, “Indeed, Allaah has permitted for my Ummah that which their souls whisper to them, so long as they do not speak it out (audibly) or act upon it.” 
 
The scholars said, “This refers to the thoughts that do not establish themselves.” And they said, “This is regardless of whether this thought consists of backbiting or kufr or otherwise. So if kufr crosses someone’s mind, but it is only a thought, without the intent of acting upon it, and he then dismisses this thought immediately, he is not a kaafir, and there is no sin on him.” 
 
We have stated in the chapter on Waswasa the authentic hadeeth in which the Companions said: “‘O Messenger of Allaah! Some of us find things in our thoughts that are too tremendous to speak of .’ So he, salallahu alayhi wa sallam, said, ‘That is the confirmation of Faith.’”, and others besides that we mentioned there that have the same meaning.
 
And the reason what we previously mentioned is excused is the impossibility of averting [these kinds of thoughts]. Rather, it is possible to avoid having these thoughts continuously, and this is why the heart’s persistence and fastening itself to these thoughts is forbidden [and not the thoughts themselves]. 
 
And whenever these thoughts of backbiting or other sins present themselves to you, it is obligatory on you to repel them by turning away from them and mentioning explanations that will distract from what seems apparent.
 
Abu Haamid al-Ghazaalee said in al-Ihyaa’, “Should evil thoughts affect your heart, then these are from the whisperings of Shaytaan, which he casts within you. So you must disavow them because Shaytaan is indeed the most evil of evildoers. And Allah has stated: 
 
‘If a wicked person (i.e. faasiq) comes to you with news, then verify it, lest you harm people without realizing it (i.e. out of ignorance) and afterwards you become regretful for what you’ve done .’ [al-Hujuraat : 6].
 
Thus, it is not permissible for you to believe Iblees. And if there were an presumption that points to evil, and the opposite is possible, then holding negative thoughts is not permissible. 
 
And among the signs of evil thoughts about someone is that your heart changes towards him from the way it used to be, and that you flee from him and find him burdensome. And that you slacken in your consideration towards him, in your hospitality to him, and in your worry when he commits bad deeds. And indeed Shaytaan comes close the heart with the smallest trace of the faults of the people, and he makes you think that [these thoughts] occur due to your sharpness, intelligence and quick alertness, and that the believer sees with the light of Allah [i.e. Allah has led him to this and not Iblees]. But this person is, in actuality, speaking with the deceptions of Shaytaan and his injustice. 
 
And if a just person informs you of [negative things about another Muslim], then neither believe him nor disclaim him, in order that you will not have negative thoughts about either of them. 
 
Whenever some evil thoughts about another Muslim cross your mind, then increase in your consideration towards him and kindness to him, as this will enrage Shaytaan and repel him from you so that he will not cast within you such thoughts out of his fear that you will instead preoccupy yourself with supplication for that person. 
 
And whenever you come to know of a fault in a Muslim based on undoubtable proof, then advise him in secret and do not let Shaytaan deceive you and invite you to backbite about him. And if you admonish him, then do not admonish him while you are happy with your knowledge of his deficiency, so he looks at you with the eyes of esteem and you look at him with belittlement. Rather, intend to free him from sin while you are saddened, just as you are saddened over yourself if a deficiency enters into you. And it is necessary that his abandonment of that deficiency without your admonishment be more beloved to you than his abandoning it after your admonishment”.